It has been over two weeks now. Last night I think we had a breakthrough with our new daughter, Tamara. She has not been completely happy and we believe she has been testing us. A few days ago during her late night anxiety time, she said she wasn't my daughter and I wasn't her father. She also wanted to go back to the orphanage. Not exactly what you want to hear. Karina was so much easier for me. Toma has never been close to me at all. I get a corporate hug when I get home from work and that is it.
Last night we had a slight confrontation and later she came to me and hugged me and told me she was sorry, and she loved me. It wasn't the corporate hug I am used to and consider it a milestone. Today she seems to be more relaxed. I think maybe she is starting to trust us just a little. How can this little girl believe that this new family is forever, when all she has ever known is abandonment and disappointment? She is making progress.
Papa
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Yeah! I've finally got one of those non-corporate hugs the other day, too! I know how lucky you feel. Hope to see you tomorrow. I'm trying to talk Bill into coming to dinner at least.
Natalie
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Hi Dennis, glad to hear Toma's slowly adapting. I can only imagine how hard it is to hear those words, especially after you've gone twice to Ukraine for her. I have no doubt she'll eventually realize how much unconditional love you're giving her. Hang in there.
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