Thursday, December 20, 2007

Final Decision

We have visited with our two girls everyday since arriving last Friday. This morning, we met with the Director, Asst. Director, a teacher, the translator and T, one of our little girls. When we first arrived with the SW, she said she wanted two days to think about going with us. The director told us last Monday, that she told her no. We met with T and the translator to tell her the consequences of her decision. She says she knows she will be put out on the street as early as age 15, which is only in three years. K, our other girl has talked to her and told her the same things. By the way, this is the same little girl that supposedly had no file and a little sister.

The Director wanted to give her one more chance. By the end of this morning's meeting, they were all shaking their heads as to why she would choose not to come with us. Everyone thinks it would be best for her including the SW, but she has family here that visits often. The SW says that she can't live with her family. The aunt T always mentions has alcohol problems. She's twelve and by Ukrainian law can make her own decision.

K on the other hand has been ready to go with us from day one. She wants a family. She wants to come to America. All her documents will be ready in the morning. We're assuming for the SDA. The only problem is that she was born in Russia. They are seeing what can be done, but this may delay her coming home with us even after court is done. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

10 comments:

adoptedthree said...

That is very heartbreaking for you and the little girl. My prayers for you both.

Anonymous said...

I was so glad to read your update on how you are doing. I'm so sorry about T. I'm shaking my head here too, knowing she will look back on that decision in the time to come so much differently, wanting to turn back time to that moment again. So strange this time that you are not at odds with Ukraine bureaucracy but instead a child's lack of wisdom.

I'm eager to hear more about your new daughter and hope that she is giving you both great joy.

Leslie said...

Thanks for sharing the update. How heartbreaking to have her turn away a chance at a different life. Praying for peace for you both and God's protection over her.

Missy said...

It is so sad that this young girl cannot see how much you want to take care of her. I pray all goes smoothly with the rest of your journey.

Nataliya said...

I'm so sorry that T. decided not to be adopted... But I'm very happy that K. wants to come to America with you! The fact that she was born in Russia means that you (or your facilitator) need to go to her birthplace there and get a new birth certificate. I hope it won't delay her coming home, I'm sure your facilitator will do everything possible to make it happen ASAP.

ArtworkByRuth said...

We continue to pray for you for wisdom and peace through your remaining processes. God Bless!

Gina said...

I am so excited to catch up on your progress with your adoption. I am so sorry about T; praying for you through this difficult time of trusting our Sovereign Lord with what we cannot understand.

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your burdens upon Him, because He cares for you.

Anonymous said...

I'm still checking your blog and still praying for you. I'm even hoping there would be the possibility of another one who is available for adoption. A virtual hug of encouragement to you both!

Melissa E. said...

She may never know what she has missed but she may often wonder.

I wonder why so many who are offered the chance for salvation turn it down. Fear? Friends? A boyfriend, perhaps? We must still pray God's intervention in her life.

I am glad that in the end it was her choice and not because of the "paperwork" that she will stay. But "glad" is not really a good word because truly, I am very sad that this is her decision.

How heartbreaking for you and your family. I am very sorry. How wonderful that the older girl will still go with you. What a gloriously wonderful decision!

Now you know hw Heaven feels to see some choose to accept and some to refuse the Gift. God weeps and rejoices all at once.

You will be in our prayers.

junglemama said...

I'm sorry about the choice this girl made. It had to be hard for her too as she will probably always wonder what could of been. WIshing you Godspeed in your process. Merry Christmas!